Asking for what you need and want

Asking for what you need and want is empowerment.

Asking for support is a superpower.

If you are anything like me, you were raised to be strong, independent, self-sufficient. Asking for help was for a long time something that not even crossed my mind. This option was not part of my mindset, my universe.

It is still not the first thing that crosses my mind when I face a challenge. Asking for support still takes presence, awareness, and (sometimes a freaking lot of) effort for me.

But I practiced. Long and courageously. And slowly I shifted my mindset towards a more empowering tool for me (and it really is like you’re training a muscle). And it becomes easier and easier to remind myself that asking for help and support really is a superpower.

Because…

The ability to ask for support means you are very competent to use your energy and resources wisely. It means that you are able to think strategically and focus on the things you are great at.

Thus you choose to keep things flowing, you consciously choose to not get or stay stuck (which can be part of the victims-mindset). You also choose wellbeing and pleasure above some of the most disempowering mindsets like “life is hard”, “no pain no gain”, “I need to make it on my own”, “nobody can do it as good/quick as I can” etc. 

Furthermore you choose to honor your unique qualities and talents as well as you honor other peoples unique qualities and talents. 

And what if it is easier than you think, to ask for support and get exactly the support you need …or even better?

When you practice to ask for support you are also increasing your capacity to receive. Most certainly, this will affect all areas of your life immensely positively. This is so true for me.

To live the best version of our life we need to be able to receive. And for many of us this is also something to learn and deepen. If I am not open to see the abundance around me, if I am not open and willing to call in help, I am most likely also not open to see and call in ease, pleasure, happiness. 

Think about that for a moment.

When you practice to ask for support you are supporting connection, trust and community.

When you allow others to experience the power of being vulnerable, the strength of asking for something, the strength of acknowledging that you are neither perfect nor capable of doing everything at the same time in the utmost perfection you are opening up a space in which other people can authentically relate to you. And it is also a huge invitation for other people to get vulnerable with you.

Humans who are able to express themselves authentically, who are able to unapologetically let themselves be seen in their originality (which feels for most of us very freaking vulnerable) are incredibly courageous. And by that they create and experience the most nourishing and uplifting connection and intimacy. At least this is what is so true for me.

We are social beings, that’s a fact. Connection and a sense of belonging is one of the foundations of human happiness. And that is not about co-dependence but about co-creation.

Asking for support is a form of co-creation.

So please practice this superpower with me. Be courageous with me. 

Be a superheroine or a superhero!

Light up the world. 
It starts with me. 
It starts with you. 
Always.